'Choice' Theory... do u noe wat is this all about???

Recently, my bro took up an elective called 'Choice Theory & Reality Therapy'... (Wah how come my time didn't have such a cool sounding general elective? Btw, my bro went to the same uni as me.)

So he brought back this book called 'Choice Theory: A Psychology of Personal Freedom' by Dr William Glasser. I thought what kinda crap book is this.. then thought no harm reading it since they offer a GE for this.

As I read on, this book made bloody sense to the kind of 'rat race' life we are living. In one simple sentence, Choice theory explains that we CHOOSE everything that we do, including feeling happy, miserable, angry, etc. It also explains about the concept of external control psychology which always harms the relationships with our loved ones. External control psychology refers to our behaviour to force people to do things which we THINK is right! Right for us DOESNOT necessarily mean right for others.

The book then gives a way to solve out differences using the 'Solving Circle'. Important thing to take note when adopting this solving circle approach is that both parties must have the aim of looking at the collective goal instead of the individual goals. Tats the tricky part but if both parties bear this in mind, this can be a great tool to work out differences.

Choice theory also tells us that the only persons we can control are ourselves. We CANNOT control anyone else. Past mistakes are not meant to be relived by complaining but to learn from the mistakes and to move on. Indirectly telling us to 'Heal the Past & Live the Present'.

This is something which I thought I was doing until I had a big blow to my life recently. I just went outta control, filled with angst and rage. I am slowly telling myself that I CHOOSE to be angry and that I can CHOOSE to live happily no matter how horrible the blows of life may be.

(For those who are interested to find out more, you may visit http://www.wglasserinst.com for more info.)

Don't trust anyone... If you want something, Get it yourself!!!

Well I realized that if you want something, get it yourself. Don't trust anyone, even if it is your own closest family member. I got this hard lesson recently, around 15 May 06. Well I know it is a month back but I have battling within myself to come to terms with what happened but the angst is still inside of me. It just will not go away.

Well I had asked my mum (someone who knows me in & out and someone whom I will trust my life completely with) to get something very precious for me. And I really wanted this very badly. But what did she do? She didn't make a real effort to get it for me. And worse of all, she let her ego get in the way and this caused me to lose my 'precious' FOREVER!!

I dono whats gonna happen when mum returns back. But one thing for sure is that I will never be the same again. Something inside of me has changed. I have never felt so much outburst of angst. Tried to tell myself that certain things happen for a reason and there may be a silver lining in the clouds... but I still can't see that Bloody freakin silver lining.

The anger outbursts are getting so bad that I just dono how to deal with it. One moment I can be so calm and the next, I am freaking mad with so much rage. Tried seeking solace in my faith but it isn't helping much.

ARRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

NEVER TRUST ANYONE...NOT EVEN YOUR CLOSE FAMILY MEMBERS COS EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN AGENDAS.

IF YOU WANT SOMETHING, GET IT YOURSELF. ELSE YOU WILL ALWAYS REGRET & WONDER WHAT IF YOU WENT TO GET IT INSTEAD OF SOMEONE ELSE. WOULD THE OUTCOME HAVE TURNED OUT DIFFERENTLY??